Yesterday, during lunch at the office.. “Long Distance Relationship” has been talked about. How it works for other people and why it doesn’t for others. I always love to hear other people’s view of things because it amazes me how we are all kind of similar and different at the same time.
LDR, I was like “It’s hard. It doesn’t really work well.” Who will hold your hand while walking around the park? Who will cuddle with you at night? Who will kiss you between cheesy and sappy exchange of words? Who will take you out on weekends? Who will tell you “I love you” in your face every single chance there is? Sounds clingy, yes. But you have to admit we need that kind of proximity.
But one of my colleagues said: “You are looking for fun-love, then. You just want those needs to be satisfied. You are not looking further–beyond that.” Also, he said that you are not matured enough if that’s the case. It reminds me of what I always bear in mind: “Proper mind-set.” If you want something to work out, you need to make ways–you have to do things.
Thoughts were discussed ’til a friend of mine asked: “How will you know if you are ‘matured’ already?” That struck me so much that I thought about it for the rest of the day. How? It always depends upon the person and the situation. People say “This is what you need to do.. I’ve been there so I know.” Sure, but it is NEVER the exact same thing. You and I are different. The people involved in that ‘been there’ situation are different. This is my decision and that is yours. There are a lot of things to consider. You can put yourself in someone else’s shoes but you can’t walk with it.
We have unconventional definition, kind, ways of maturity. Relationship-wise, I think it is when you don’t just ‘think’ about the future with someone you are in a relationship with today but you are also ‘planning’ it with him. You are setting your mind in something big, in something lifetime. Life-wise, it’s when you accept the fact that “the world is not a wish-granting factory”, there’s nothing you can do with that. It’s when you stop whining over the things you want but can’t have. Tantrums are just for kids. Personality-wise, when you stop being miserable and feeling sorry for yourself because of whatever reason or shortcomings you’re going through. You are the only one who can save yourself from despondency. Take a move and get up, stand for yourself.
Maturity happens everyday. We grow up everyday. How? By the experiences we are in, by the people we meet, by life itself. You will know you have matured once you start visualizing things in long-term basis and that you are willing to stick with the path you take. We will never be matured enough, though. We will always commit mistakes, we will always make stupid decisions, and that’s just how things go.. It’s not the starting or end line that matters, it’s the journey in between.
We all take different paths in life, but no matter where we go, we take a little of each other everywhere.”